lisa (st4nl3y) wrote,

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Alone still.

Not as bad as it was at first. I'm getting stronger, but my shell is getting thicker. I'm going to be a lot happier in the long run. It's going to be nice to be in a relationship with someone who actually loves me who I can trust. It's a ways down the road, but it will happen in God's time. I feel like I still have some loose ends to tie with Tyler, but I have also decided that I could get away with leaving things the way they were. He has my TomTom. I guess I still have my iPhone with GoogleMaps. I have tons of his stuff, too. So I guess we're even?

The next guy is going to be a little more like this (these things are the OPPOSITE of Tyler):

-His relationship with God a dominant part of his life.
-His drinking habits won't bring conflict to our relationship.
-He respects me enough not to lie to me (or my family, or HIS family)...
-He cares about his health, is active, and eats smart.
-He spends more quality time with me that any one of his friends.
-He doesn't let that particular friend do/say inappropriate things to me.
-He doesn't just want to lay around and watch TV all the time.
-If he does get drunk (rare), he actually treats me like a human being.
-Talking about our future isn't taboo.

***Bonus points if he likes to run.

This guy definitely exists. I've started praying for him. I'll find find him. Actually, he'll find me. Hopefully I'll be ready when he comes along...
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I have 1 issue with that. As part of a relationship, you cannot spend every waking minute with each other. You need your space and in all honesty school and friends come before a relationship. Without your friends, you are nothing and have no crutch for support when things go sour.

By you saying that, you make yourself out to seem clingy and demanding (no offense) and that drives a lot of guys away. Normal guys hate drama and high maintenance girls.

Again, no offense. I understand about the quality time but there should be somethin like a 50/50 or 60/40 split. You can't expect someone to basically eliminate their friends just to be with you.

Please don't take this the wrong way and get defensive about it. I'm not attacking you or anything. I'm just stating an opinion and am not trying to offend you in any way shape or form. If I do/did I apologize in advance because that is not what my intentions are.
I have no idea what you're talking about. was it this: ??

"-He spends more quality time with me that any one of his friends."

Because i mean any "one" friend. not all of his friends, combined. Tyler had "guy's nights". PLENTY of them, trust me. He spent more time with one friend than he did with me, and that wasn't fair. I'm all about him having friends, If he doesn't then that's creepy. But when he hangs out with him every single night, and spends way more quality time with him than me, then that's not okay. Especially if they're oogling other women together.

So please read carefully before you criticize. thanks.
the way you worded that quote was misleading then. I interpreted it as any of his friends period. I didn't interpret it as 1 specific person.

I agree with your response above. The ooging other women together is not cool and uncalled for.
ok. well we're still friends then :) lol
lol if that's what you want to call things...
we're frienemies, then.
no no, def not enemies. By saying "if that's what you want to call things" I was referring to the lack of a friendship that we have. Hard to say anything more than us just being 2 people who share a common interest.

Don't get me wrong, this totally sucks and I think you should come to NY so we can fix that cuz I think we could be totally awesome friends and the bestest of buds or whatever you want to call it.

Let me paraphrase for you:

LOL! Why dont u come to arkansas instead. its warmer here. and we dont get snow.
Cuz u get hurricanes and all them other shits. NY is cooler than Arkansas in more ways than 1 (including temps yo!) but I'm afraid there are hicks and inbreds in Arkansas and I'm afraid they'll eat me. I don't want to have to bust out my NY Ninja skills on them. I wouldn't want to scare you off cuz they're such powerful and frightening moves that anyone whose not from NY, would wet themselves and run away while being scarred for life.
And then two days after I posted this I met Brad. Who meets alllllllll of the criteria.

be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it.

even if you're still trying to dump old baggage down the potty.
if this wasn't foreshadowing, I don't know what is.